LANSING, MI â When I became a Pastorâs wife, there was quite a change that took place. I noticed that most âpeopleâ started referring to me as âPastor Stanâs wife.â In fact, when they see me on the street they often ask, are you âPastor Stanâs wife?â I went to Krogerâs the other day, and a lady came up to me and said, âYou are âPastor Stanâs wife,â right? Now, I really wanted to say, if you know my name, I will give you $20, $30, going once, going twice âș âŠ.but she may not have seen the âhumorâ in my statement
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You have probably guessed by now, I really lost my âidentityâ that is, no one seems to know my name. Yes, âIdentity Theftâ has taken place. I have often been âidentifiedâ by my relationship to the Pastor. Secondly, it is quite interesting âhowâ a person responds when they come into contact with a Pastor, when he is with his wife. I have noticed that most of the time, it seems as if they only âseeâ the Pastor and he is eagerly greeted with smiles, hugs, etc. It appears that there is âtunnel vision.â I often have to say, âHi, how are you?â and then I may receive ârecognitionâ but, not too many hugs. In addition, there is another example of âidentity theft.â The Pastorâs wife, the âunidentified oneâ is sometimes referred to as the âFirst Ladyâ and I have asked âwhere is that âtitleâ in scriptureâ? Again, another term given to the Pastorâs Wife by the âpeople.â If there is a First Lady, who is the Second Lady, or the Third Lady?
This is a âcallâ to the Pastorâs Wives. Do you know âWhoâ you are? I hope you know âWhoseâ you are. Just a reminder, we have âIdentityâ in Christ. The Bible teaches that In Christ, There is now, no condemnation for me (Romans 8:1), I can never be separated from Godâs love (Romans 8:38, 39), I am a new Creation (II Corinthians 5:17). I was chosen (Ephesians 1:11), I have received Godâs Grace (Ephesians 2:7), and God knows âMy Identityâ, because He made me in His Image and He made me beautifully and wonderfully. As a Pastorâs Wife, I must know that God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, and that âwhosoeverâ believeth in Him, shall not perish but, shall have everlasting life. St John 3:16⊠and I know that God Loves Me. Therefore, I Love God, and must love His âpeople.â May everything that God has made, remind us of His goodness, love and care. Godâs Love is true. God is expanding opportunities for me to love more, to increase and to abound in His Love.
As a result, as a Pastorâs Wife, I must show love and care for others, as I âidentifyâ with Christ. I know I have been chosen to continue in His Love. By this, shall all know that we are His Disciples, indeed.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
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Sis Char Parker is a graduate of Mich. State Univ.(MSU). She is the First Lady of Faith Fellowship BC , Lansing, MI, where her husband, Dr Stan Parker has been the Senior Pastor for 18 yrs. . She has been the Keynote Speaker at Womenâs Conferences, and Missionary Programs. Sis Parker is also the loving Mother of four Adult children, five Grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren.